I was sort of perplexed for just a moment. But that was the question that one of my, uh, “student” we’ll call him, asked me point blank. His education had just really been started. At the question being posed so early led me to some real important clues to his internal thinking at the moment. The first thing that stuck out immediately, is that he was not really trying to be successful in dating or playing the field. His real motive was to learn this knowledge to “hook up with women” only to find a mate, perhaps “soul” mate. The second thing was the disdain in his voice when he asked the question, which showed obvious pain related to the hook up with women when women play it as a game. He had obviously wanted more than a hook up and had been the losing player of several individual games he did not realize he was playing.
Psychology plays a major role in the game. It also dictates to an individual how they will play the game and whether or not that they should even be in the game. I had to set this “student” down and hold his hand as I explained to him I could see two things: 1) he had been hurt by the game more than once, and 2) he really is not interested in the game as he is looking for a permanent partner. He, of course denied the first one and was unsure about the second. It is okay to be looking for a partner. It is just that if that is your ultimate goal, then my methodologies and teachings are going to not “harmonize” with you. What I teach and promote is how to hook up with women, not how to hook up with your ultimate woman. And with that, I sent him on his way to take a deep look inside of himself to really understand his ending goals. If he wanted to hook up with women, or did he want to find the right woman?
For the rest of you, why do I look at ways to hook up with women as a game? Again, psychology plays a major role in most everything you do whether you want to admit it or not. The fact is, hooking up is “fun” to me. Games are also “fun” to me as well. No matter what the game, their is a psychology involved in it. That psychology helps determine how you play the game. To get right to the point, you have several players, or want to be players in every game, regardless the game. But in the end, there can be only one true winner. Even though only one can win, that does not mean that the rest of the players can not have fun participating as well.
To me, the psychology itself is part of the fun of playing the game. You can bullshit whomever you want to try to, but I know that when you are trying to hook up with women, the last thing you are being is your true self. You are portraying a character that you believe will be the successful with the girl you are currently trying to hook up with. If you are certain this girls is into sports you suddenly turn into the pseudo-jock you think is going to have the easiest effort to get this girl home. If you are into the eco-nerdy type, you may not give a damn about the oil you dumped on the ground when changing the oil in you car, but you are going to try your damnedest to convince this girl how you care about the environment and how you can not believe the waste going on in the world. That is part of the psychology guys.
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Knowing the game is psychological in nature is what makes me the hunter and not the hunted. Knowing this can make you a more successful hunter because there are very, very few of us female hunters out there. Ironically, we have easy pickings though, because there is a vast number of you men who act like prey instead of the hunters you are supposed to be. Regardless, knowing some psychology can go a long way when you are trying to hook up with women in general.
There are generalities of the human mind, and then there are individualities that separate all of us to make us each unique. Counting on the generalities of psychology is going to give you a much more significant higher success rate than trying to manage the individualities. Basically speaking, you count on the generalities when trying to hook up with women in general, and you try to manage the individualities when you have found that special someone you are thinking you could be with as a potential mate. Like anything really you deal with in generalities, to hook up with women is a numbers game. And why would you limit yourself by trying to control the individualities? Although, if you just observe a typical bar scene, you will see men starting off with trying to hook up with women by asking and controlling the individual aspects instead of playing against the norm of generalities.
As we get further into discussions, I will be more specific about both of the subjects. This will help you decide what to put time into and what not to put time into. For example, generally speaking, most women have a complex about their looks and beauty. Individually, however, some have this subject of self worth attached to her beauty that makes this much more intense. In this case, generally, if you keep your eyes locked into hers, and never stare at her chest, or worse yet, keep having a tendency to look away during a conversation, the mental trigger (part of that psychology) is, “what is wrong with me that he is not looking at me?”. She then tries all sort of little tricks to try and gain your attention. However, individually, you could come across the two extremes of this, the girl who thinks she is uber-hot and expects you to perform everything short of circus tricks to be worthy of her to even look your way, or the girl who takes you not looking at her breasts or away as further proof that she is unworthy and so more than likely is going to give it up to you in any freaky way you want because that is the only way she feels loved and the only way she thinks she is going to get the attention. I am sure you all know some girl that is gorgeous, but for some reason she is always complaining about her weight or her bad hair days or whatever. Further, you and all your buddies have heard rumors that this girl is easy to get into the bed and will let you do just about anything.
I am not sure if that answers the question fully or not. I did get off subject a bit, but it is hard to explain how the psychology of the game is part of the game itself. It is also why I treat it as a game. Because I am not in the market to look for a mate any time soon. Thus, I am into the psychology and the game playing of hooking up. This sport is not for everyone. Especially if you are one of the needy emotional types. You know who you are. You are going to get hurt every time playing the game by my rules. You need more relationship advice, not dating advice. You are going to have more success with women over 30 who are starting to believe it is time they settle down.
Until next time, ~ Venus
