Fear of dating and love

Believe it or not, many people have a fear of dating and love. Sometimes, they are not even consciously aware of it. There are usually 4 types of fear associated with dating and love.

The most common type of fear of dating and love is simply embarrassment. The fear that making contact or striking a conversation with somebody will end up with saying something or doing something that will end in embarrassment. And anybody who has put themselves in this position already knows once you are embarrassed, your game is over and so are any chances of trying to recover from it. That experience, if happened only once, will strike fear in most people from that point on.

Similar to embarrassment, is the fear of making mistakes. It is different from embarrassment, though. This fear is more based on you are going to say the wrong things, things that won’t make you embarrassed, but something like, the person likes the color red and you go on and on about the color blue. Or you think you have a good conversation going and you switch gears to another subject, which just happens to be a sore subject with the person you are conversing with, deleting all the ground you previously made.

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Both fear of embarrassment and fear of making mistakes leads up to the ultimate fear, the fear of failure. The sad thing about the fear of failure is that usually, not always, but most times, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. That is to say that you are so concentrated on making the mistakes and becoming embarrassed, that you ultimately accept the fact that you are going to fail before you even begin. Having that pre-conceived mind set before going in usually ends of making the fear a reality, and you fail, making it a self-fulfilling prophecy. Understand?

You need to get a handle on these fears, which ultimately combine to create an overall fear of dating or fear of love. The best thing you can do is recognize that they exist. Then accept that you have them so that you can overcome them. Now that you know you have them and accept them, working on them will make it easier to either combat them or change your strategy based on the fact that you know that they are there.

One final fear that actually exist more in men than women, is the fear of dating and love will end in financial loss. No, I am not joking here. There are a lot men out there that mentally block themselves from dating and love because they think it will cost too much. Or worst yet, they spend way more than they should to try to impress somebody or make it appear that they are financially more solid than they really are. After all, there is a social acceptance that any man with money can get a woman regardless of looks or personality. Honestly, unless the woman is a true gold digger, money is not really an issue. If it were, then there would be a LOT of lonely broke men, and if you look around, you will see that it is just not so.

Okay, so now you know the types of fears you are up against. Enjoy the hunt and work it out. You can use this new knowledge to begin to conquer the fear of dating and love.

Gender Psychology And Hooking Up With Women

Do you know enough about gender psychology and how it affects you? What exactly is sexual impulse and why does it create desire? What two phases of these impulses exists in gender psychology and how to use this information? And the psychological affects of the sexual impulse on the woman? These are the questions that are about to be answered in the following article.

Sexual impulse is really a combination of physiological and psychological triggers working in complete harmony with the person experiencing it, and indirectly by sending signals to the nervous system. Such factors of influence include, but are not limited to the five senses. However gender psychology plays a large role as well.

For example, like a moth, scent is used in the form of pheromones that connect the scent to sexual excitation. This sexual excitation, turned into a sexual impulse, is what leads the male to seek the female with the chemical releasing of these pheromones. That is why the scent of a woman can drive a man crazy, overriding logical reaction to sexual impulse.

Regardless of being male or female, you have made a neurological association of pleasure attached directly to physical touch, and ultimately sex. This is what turns the physiological reaction of sexual excitation into the sexual impulse, influenced by the gender psychology.

Sexual impulse leading into desire really is nothing more than an extension of the childhood neurological association of pleasure, even the emotional connection of a loving feeling, to the physical touch. This started from the warmth and protection of your mother’s womb, to the loving arms of parental hugs, holding hands with your first loving attraction, and so forth. Due to gender psychology, men bond physically to this, women bond emotions to the physical action.

There are two phases in a sexual impulse; but, instead of being unrelated, or only distantly related, we see that they are really so intimately connected as to form two distinct stages in or of the same process.

The first stage is usually under the parallel influence of internal and external stimuli such as images, desires, and ideals formulated within the mind. These can be conscious or unconscious. Then the person generally is charged with energy and the person’s sexual organ congests with blood, a normal physiological reaction.

The second stage involves the sexual organ then discharging amid profound sexual excitement, complimented by intense physical stimuli, then followed by deep organic relief. Otherwise known as an orgasm.

It is of course by the first process that produces the tension in which the second process relieves. The first, taking on usually a more active form in the male, has the double affect of bringing the male himself into the condition in which discharge becomes imperative.

At the same time arousing in the female a similar ardent state of emotional excitement and sexual stimuli by the engorging of the her sexual organ. The second process has the task, directly, of discharging the tension thus produced and, indirectly, of effecting the act by which the race is propagated. In other word, that means that the orgasm is physiologically meant to release that sexual tension, while the process also has the side effect of creating life.

Mother nature is kind of tricky, huh! Knowing that the need to release sexual tension by performing the act of sex will also ensure the propagation of the human race, unless manually prohibited, by pill, condom, etc.

What does it all mean? How does it help you hook up with women?

My attempt, although perhaps too clinical, is to have you understand the underlying states that produce the sexual impulse for the purpose of you understanding that it is not just a physical draw, but a psychological connection made from a neurological connection, as well as emotional association.

For men, it simply implies that the reason for The Hunt is not only to gain pleasurable experience through sex, but it is the means necessary to relieve the physiological desire to release the pent up tension that is an automatic response created automatically by the object of his desire. You can’t help yourselves for wanting sex, more so the release of that created tension.

But for women, The Hunt is no only for the above experience as for men, but also an emotional need due to gender psychology. The issue here then becomes, that in order to be successful, you have to get through the woman’s gate keeper. Get through her emotional guard.

Knowing that women are emotionally blocking your efforts, you only need to find the keys to unlock that gate to get to the physiological animal she hides inside! Catching on?

This is the hardest part for you men. No doubt about it. Because here is the final secret to your success: you have to present yourself as the strong and virile man that will fulfill her first emotional blockage of finding a protector and provider (whether that is your intention or not) and then break her other emotional gates down by loving physical contact and connecting conversation.

Contact such as touching her shoulder, touching the back of her hand or better yet holding her hand, and the ultimate, if you can get away with it, to fit some hugs in there too. This enforces the protector, but more than that, re-constitutes her neurological association of love through physical contact.

Get past her emotional gate guardians, and it is all too easy to produce the sexual impulse within her. And this is just the physical side of the communication! Further, it has only scratched the surface!

In order to really get this to work, you need to utilize almost hypnotic verbal communication. Which means you really need to understand gender psychology.

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