I have always liked that song, even though I have never been addicted…to drugs anyways…

So, I have sort of taken an extended vacation. Things got pretty heavy for a while, but I am back and slowly returning to the scene.

The bad: Lost contact with a lot of people, and for that I apologize.

The good: got LOTS of good stuff coming in the future.

Come back often, and as the winter approaches, more and more information, fun, and advice will start to fill this blog again! Yeah!

Miss me? Liar, I know the game and you would say anything to keep me hanging on…*wink*

That’s right…the Bitch is back…

Love and stuff!

Venus

(no, this is not a pic of me…

I wish!)

Fear of dating and love

Believe it or not, many people have a fear of dating and love. Sometimes, they are not even consciously aware of it. There are usually 4 types of fear associated with dating and love.

The most common type of fear of dating and love is simply embarrassment. The fear that making contact or striking a conversation with somebody will end up with saying something or doing something that will end in embarrassment. And anybody who has put themselves in this position already knows once you are embarrassed, your game is over and so are any chances of trying to recover from it. That experience, if happened only once, will strike fear in most people from that point on.

Similar to embarrassment, is the fear of making mistakes. It is different from embarrassment, though. This fear is more based on you are going to say the wrong things, things that won’t make you embarrassed, but something like, the person likes the color red and you go on and on about the color blue. Or you think you have a good conversation going and you switch gears to another subject, which just happens to be a sore subject with the person you are conversing with, deleting all the ground you previously made.

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Confidence in yourself is the number one weapon in dating. If you have no confidence in yourself, it will definitely show through.

Every time you interact with another, lack of confidence shows through and your chances decrease tremendously before you even utter a word.

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Both fear of embarrassment and fear of making mistakes leads up to the ultimate fear, the fear of failure. The sad thing about the fear of failure is that usually, not always, but most times, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. That is to say that you are so concentrated on making the mistakes and becoming embarrassed, that you ultimately accept the fact that you are going to fail before you even begin. Having that pre-conceived mind set before going in usually ends of making the fear a reality, and you fail, making it a self-fulfilling prophecy. Understand?

You need to get a handle on these fears, which ultimately combine to create an overall fear of dating or fear of love. The best thing you can do is recognize that they exist. Then accept that you have them so that you can overcome them. Now that you know you have them and accept them, working on them will make it easier to either combat them or change your strategy based on the fact that you know that they are there.

One final fear that actually exist more in men than women, is the fear of dating and love will end in financial loss. No, I am not joking here. There are a lot men out there that mentally block themselves from dating and love because they think it will cost too much. Or worst yet, they spend way more than they should to try to impress somebody or make it appear that they are financially more solid than they really are. After all, there is a social acceptance that any man with money can get a woman regardless of looks or personality. Honestly, unless the woman is a true gold digger, money is not really an issue. If it were, then there would be a LOT of lonely broke men, and if you look around, you will see that it is just not so.

Okay, so now you know the types of fears you are up against. Enjoy the hunt and work it out. You can use this new knowledge to begin to conquer the fear of dating and love.

Gender Psychology And Hooking Up With Women

Do you know enough about gender psychology and how it affects you? What exactly is sexual impulse and why does it create desire? What two phases of these impulses exists in gender psychology and how to use this information? And the psychological affects of the sexual impulse on the woman? These are the questions that are about to be answered in the following article.

Sexual impulse is really a combination of physiological and psychological triggers working in complete harmony with the person experiencing it, and indirectly by sending signals to the nervous system. Such factors of influence include, but are not limited to the five senses. However gender psychology plays a large role as well.

For example, like a moth, scent is used in the form of pheromones that connect the scent to sexual excitation. This sexual excitation, turned into a sexual impulse, is what leads the male to seek the female with the chemical releasing of these pheromones. That is why the scent of a woman can drive a man crazy, overriding logical reaction to sexual impulse.

Regardless of being male or female, you have made a neurological association of pleasure attached directly to physical touch, and ultimately sex. This is what turns the physiological reaction of sexual excitation into the sexual impulse, influenced by the gender psychology.

Sexual impulse leading into desire really is nothing more than an extension of the childhood neurological association of pleasure, even the emotional connection of a loving feeling, to the physical touch. This started from the warmth and protection of your mother’s womb, to the loving arms of parental hugs, holding hands with your first loving attraction, and so forth. Due to gender psychology, men bond physically to this, women bond emotions to the physical action.

There are two phases in a sexual impulse; but, instead of being unrelated, or only distantly related, we see that they are really so intimately connected as to form two distinct stages in or of the same process.

The first stage is usually under the parallel influence of internal and external stimuli such as images, desires, and ideals formulated within the mind. These can be conscious or unconscious. Then the person generally is charged with energy and the person’s sexual organ congests with blood, a normal physiological reaction.

The second stage involves the sexual organ then discharging amid profound sexual excitement, complimented by intense physical stimuli, then followed by deep organic relief. Otherwise known as an orgasm.

It is of course by the first process that produces the tension in which the second process relieves. The first, taking on usually a more active form in the male, has the double affect of bringing the male himself into the condition in which discharge becomes imperative.

At the same time arousing in the female a similar ardent state of emotional excitement and sexual stimuli by the engorging of the her sexual organ. The second process has the task, directly, of discharging the tension thus produced and, indirectly, of effecting the act by which the race is propagated. In other word, that means that the orgasm is physiologically meant to release that sexual tension, while the process also has the side effect of creating life.

Mother nature is kind of tricky, huh! Knowing that the need to release sexual tension by performing the act of sex will also ensure the propagation of the human race, unless manually prohibited, by pill, condom, etc.

What does it all mean? How does it help you hook up with women?

My attempt, although perhaps too clinical, is to have you understand the underlying states that produce the sexual impulse for the purpose of you understanding that it is not just a physical draw, but a psychological connection made from a neurological connection, as well as emotional association.

For men, it simply implies that the reason for The Hunt is not only to gain pleasurable experience through sex, but it is the means necessary to relieve the physiological desire to release the pent up tension that is an automatic response created automatically by the object of his desire. You can’t help yourselves for wanting sex, more so the release of that created tension.

But for women, The Hunt is no only for the above experience as for men, but also an emotional need due to gender psychology. The issue here then becomes, that in order to be successful, you have to get through the woman’s gate keeper. Get through her emotional guard.

Knowing that women are emotionally blocking your efforts, you only need to find the keys to unlock that gate to get to the physiological animal she hides inside! Catching on?

This is the hardest part for you men. No doubt about it. Because here is the final secret to your success: you have to present yourself as the strong and virile man that will fulfill her first emotional blockage of finding a protector and provider (whether that is your intention or not) and then break her other emotional gates down by loving physical contact and connecting conversation.

Contact such as touching her shoulder, touching the back of her hand or better yet holding her hand, and the ultimate, if you can get away with it, to fit some hugs in there too. This enforces the protector, but more than that, re-constitutes her neurological association of love through physical contact.

Get past her emotional gate guardians, and it is all too easy to produce the sexual impulse within her. And this is just the physical side of the communication! Further, it has only scratched the surface!

In order to really get this to work, you need to utilize almost hypnotic verbal communication. Which means you really need to understand gender psychology.

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Forget about all that gender psychology. But, things dealing with psychology usually include a couch…just saying…

Maybe you should learn more about gender psychology and how to use it to hook up with women.

Every woman is different. I say this because in the past when I give a list of things like this, there is always somebody that wants to argue it. I am speaking in general terms here, guys. Of course there are always going to be exceptions here and there. But what women want a man to be can be common.

I know even stating that above, someone is going to email me saying that his top 5 things is better than my top 5 and I am not correct. Okay, but here is my question to you honey, ready? How’s that list of 5 working out for you? You getting all the play you want with that top 5 list are you? Girls beating down your door and you have so many you have to turn them away?

My point is that you may have found a list that works for a certain woman. That is great if you are looking for a long lasting, marriage potential relationship. For the rest of us, let us talk about the top 5 things that generally makes a man sexy to women (notice the plural, more than one reference here?).

The subject is hard enough as it is. Sexy is subjective, period. What may turn me on might not do anything for one of my girlfriends. However, there are some commonalities that most women would agree with. The following below are as agreeable as a collective set of women can get.

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1. The fine art of being manly.

No, not being a hairy macho caveman. I equate this more as a presence than a physical attribute. Of course eye candy will catch any eye, but for women, that is not the thing that keeps her attention. It really is about the masculinity that you seem to exude. It is instinctual. The female lions do not need a male lion if you think about it. She hunts, fights, and does everything else on her own. But the lion who exudes the most natural masculinity is the lion who has a pride of females following him.

It is the way he carries himself. It is the mannerism of his body during movement. There is a certain confidence about him that no woman can ignore. There is a confidence in his speech and what he says. There is a way about his eyes when he talks that dares you to look away while he is talking, but he somehow knows that you can not. This is the effect of the masculine natural instinct that women can not help but be attracted to regardless of outside appearance. That leads into our next spot…

2. Confidence

There is no other way around it, confidence makes a man, period. You can have a room of 10 guys, 9 of them models, and 1 ordinary Joe. If the 9 models are all wimpy and are too concerned about how they look or if they can go talk to a girl, but Joe has the attitude he is not in competition and walks up and starts taking the initiative on the woman, I can guarantee you 9 guys will have dates with a mirror while Joe is walking out with the woman. Confidence is definitely what women want a man to be.

It seems to come natural by men who have wealth and power. However, you can be a broke guy with a car wash job, if you can pull off that confidence, you are going to get phone numbers. It is as simple as that. Even if you only emulate the confidence convincingly, even if you really are not, you are still going to be that much further ahead than most men. Believe me when I tell you this. Pretend you are James Bond if you have to.

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3. Flash that smile

It sort of goes with the confidence, but a man who is confident enough to smile a lot can really get attention. In fact, a boyish smile can be a great weapon against women. It says to us that you are confident, friendly, and genuine. It does all of this without you even saying a word. Find a way to be happy and smile a lot and you will notice more and more women wanting to hang out around you. It is like you are the life of the party while the other men are just looking with blank stares and drinking.

4. The eyes have it

Your eyes and what you do with them can be the ultimate secret weapon in your arsenal. Here is why, we are attention whores. Any woman that tells you different is lying. We absolutely seek attention. And lucky for you, it takes something as simple as eye contact. Do this especially if we are speaking to you.

Keeping eye contact with us while we speak makes us feel that you are actually listening and want to hear what we have to say. It may be complete bullshit, but we do not know the difference. The eye contact makes us believe you are and that feeds our attention seeking needs. In fact, if you can keep from bouncing your eyes from our breasts to our eyes, you can use eye contact to make us feel so special that we will pretty much let you take what you want.

5. Aromatherapy

A little bit of man smell can be masculine and attractive. But if you are smelling like you have been on the couch for days playing video games, in other words, like Fritos and sweaty butt crack, you could be a greek god and you are not getting anywhere.

We associate in our minds the smells of tobacco, woods, spices, and moss to masculinity. We can not help it, it turns you into a strong lumberjack in our minds regardless of body type. Stay away from the scents that are made to be worn by both men and women. These are considered androgynous, not manly.

There you have it. Pretend if you have to. But exude confidence and carry yourself as masculine, smiling at your target and look into her eyes like they are the only thing in the universe. Dab a little bit of cologne (dot on the neck behind and below ears and dot on wrists, do not bathe in it). Do these 5 things and you are going to be the guy women are gathering around, what women want a man to be.

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I have several emails asking me what kind of stories to write. And several requesting an example. So, by request, I present you with a sample of my “Bedtime Stories”. I call this one, “The Bitch Seat”

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“So, you coming or what?” Peter’s voice sounded almost annoyed over the phone.

“It’s not going to be one of those all day thingys is it? I have already made plans for tonight…” the last thing I wanted to do is get caught up in a long drawn out boring-ass party.

“No, it is just an afternoon get together…some wine, snacks, and some conversation. Jesus Venus, you ain’t got anything else going on right now and it has been a while since you and I had a chance to see each other. It’s not a date you know…and you already know more than half the people that are going to be there. So what the fuck? You in or not?”

Relentless, but he was right, I had absolutely nothing on my plate for the afternoon “alright, whatever. You are coming over to pick me up then?”

“Yeah, and don’t dress like we are going to a club, it is just some friends, casual, you know? I’ll be there in about an hour…see ya then, ok? Bye” and then there was a click and he was gone before I even had a chance to reply.

Casual, non-club clothes…what did that mean? I went with a sunny-bright yellow button up men’s shirt, tied just above my belly button, and a denim skirt. Michigan summers are not always hot, but they are usually muggy. This outfit seemed comfortable and cool.

The hour had come and gone, and the knock on my door surprised me. I opened to see Peter, a band tee shirt and a pair of jeans…I guess I’ll be okay then. “You ready?” he asked, not bothering to come in.

“Yep, let me get my purse and I’ll…”

“Just grab your ID and whatever else, you don’t need your purse” he stated cutting me right off.

“Damn! Aren’t we a bit commandive today!” I gave him a glare as I stuck my license, some cash, and my lipstick in my skirt pocket. “What the hell? Did I step on a testosterone button or something?”

“No, I guess I am just excited, I want to show you my new ride!” he smiled and pulled me through the doorway. I shut my door, made sure it was locked and away we went.

Out in the drive way was a motorcycle. A really fast looking motorcycle. “Is that a crotch-rocket?”

“Hell’s to the yeah!” he beamed, “Fricken’ sweet, isn’t it?”

“I am not a big fan…so, this is what we are riding on?” I was hoping for a car with air conditioning.

“Hell yeah it is! Grab that helmet, I’ll start her up and steady her for you to get on…” he was like a little boy he was so excited. Peter and I had known each other from the old neighborhood, we had grown up together as childhood friends.

The bike roared like it was already going down the road like a bat out of hell and he had a grin all the way across his face, “Get on, Venus!” I looked behind him for the back seat, but what I found instead was a little piece of colored vinyl, not looking much bigger than a hoagie bun.

“Get on what?” I asked. “This little thing behind you?”

“Yeah!” he winked at me, “it’s called the bitch seat!”

“But I am in a skirt!” I pleaded.

“So! Who cares?” he wasn’t really concerned about it “the worst thing that could happen is that it creeps up a little bit and some old dude has a heart attack because part of your ass cheek is showing…”

I hadn’t even thought about that aspect of it. It surely wasn’t making me any more excited about getting on. “You’re an ass!”

“What? I am not going to see anything!” he padded the little seat with his hand. “Now step on the peg with your left foot, and sort of swing your right leg over like you would getting on a horse. Use my shoulders to steady yourself until your right foot finds the other peg.”

“But they’re so high, how comfortable can it be?” I was starting to question why I was going again.

“It is not that bad, you will lean into me and you’ll see it is not as uncomfortable as it looks.” He leaned a bit forward. I still was not convinced.

I got on the “bitch” seat and put my arms around his waist. “Don’t be popping wheelies or doing any other crazy shit, just get me there in one piece, okay?”

He started to laugh, “Just shut up and ride, baby!” he then revved the engine a couple times.

It was with the very first rev that I noticed that the bike was forcing me to sit with my legs spread and dry humping this little seat. The vibration of the bike took me off guard for a moment as a rush sort of tingled its way through me.

“Ready?” he asked.

“Uh, not really….” I tried to get out as he took off down the driveway.

“Just sit straight up and hold on to me, lean with me when I do.” And with that we were off. He turned out of the driveway and we were on the road, whether I liked it or not.

The bike roared and I won’t deny I enjoyed the tickling vibration it was giving me as we took off down the road. It was mild and soothing. I had resigned myself to the situation and decided I could just enjoy the mild massaging it was giving my inner thighs.

The residential area turned quickly into a main street. And as the bike went from 25 miles per hour to 45 miles per hour, the massaging became more aggressive, and I was enjoying it even more.

As he predicted, although the jean material was still, my skirt still rose a bit. I could feel the wind all around me and inside my skirt. The combination of the bike motor roaring and the wind feel through my underwear was a little more than different, it was down right feeling good. I tightened my grip around his waist.

We entered the entrance ramp and headed onto the highway. With each gear shift and each lowering motor sound the vibrations were…uh, getting me more excited than I wanted to at the moment.

Soon we were on the highway doing 75 and it seemed to be the magic number. I had no idea how long we were going to be on the highway, but I was willing to ride the long haul. I was starting to let the vibration, the wind, and the throbbing bumps just take over me.

This was the first time I was on a “bitch” seat, and I think I know why they call it that now. That bike was sure enough making me its bitch. I was glad the noise of the wind and the helmets covered the fact that I was starting to sweat and breathing heavily.

I was clinging on to him and trying not to cum because there was nothing there to stop anything if I did. As it was I could tell I was conditioning his seat with my wetness, but lord help me I could not stop myself.

He looked to his left and then without warning dropped the bike down a gear and passed the car in front of him.

That was it; it was all I could take. I grabbed him tightly and squeezed my eyes shut trying to stop the inevitable from happening. But I couldn’t. Not now. As my inner thighs twitched and waves of passion went down my legs, I could tell he was noticing my legs flexing around his waist, but I didn’t care.

I was there, the land of the “O”.

I just pressed myself against him and let it take me. I had no choice in the manner anyways. And as I was starting to recover, the bike was slowing down and we exited the highway.

I felt ashamed, damned good, but ashamed. I was hoping we were going to be riding a while longer to dry up some of my mess. Of course it was only minutes after leaving the highway that we arrived at our destination.

He stopped the bike and shut it off. “You have to get off first” he said, if only he knew. In fact I was quite sure he did. I got off the bike and sure enough, my underwear soaked and the top of his seat glistened in the summer sun. My face turned red inside of the helmet.

He got off and started to take off his helmet, “Was that awesome or what?!?” he smiled. He had not seen the evidence yet.

“That, uh, was indeed awesome” I said sort of shyly.

“What’s wrong? I didn’t scare you did I?” His look of concern made me even more embarrassed.

“No….no…wasn’t scared” I was pulling my skirt back down and was trying to get my helmet on top of the seat before he noticed.

“Here, I’ll take that” and he grabbed my helmet…great.

He turned to put the helmets on the helmet hooks and it was then that I think he saw it.

“Uh…Venus…I take it you enjoyed the ride?” he smiled and pointed.

My face turned red and I stammered, “I could not help it, I tried to stop it, but the engine…and the wind…and”

“Son of a bitch…” he said.

“Don’t be mad, it’s not going to hurt the seat or anything” I tried to sound mad, but really I was hoping he was not mad at me, being a new bike and everything.

“Venus, I have dreamed about making you cum for years and years. But I have to tell you, this is not exactly the way the vision went in my head…”

“What?” I asked somewhat angry, “We have been friends for years, Peter, you know I don’t date friends, and I ..”

“Yeah, yeah I know…I’m just saying…” he took his hand and rubbed off the seat.

“Well, baby, you better enjoy that hand then” I said sort of bitchy like, after all I just got off the bitch seat, “cuz that is as close as you are going to get to the real thing!”

“Better not wash this hand then” he chuckled, “unless you plan on enjoying the ride home too!”

“Kiss my ass, bastard!” I said as I slugged him in the arm.

“Apparently I only have to kiss the seat!”

I shook my head as we walked in silence toward the house where the afternoon gathering was.

“Uh, Peter…” I said as we walked up the sidewalk.

“Yeah?” he answered.

“Let’s just keep this to ourselves, please? I swear if you are going to talk about this we might as well get back on the bike and you can take me home and come back yourself!”

He just smiled, put his arm around my waist, gave me a short side hug and said, “You so owe me girl, I swear! It’s not like I am going to forget this ever happened you know…”

Can You Believe It? Venus is in the process of writing a new book!

It’s called, “Bedtime Stories”! And it is all about those stories that make you fall to sleep with a smile on your face!

Wanna know how to get your copy for free???

Here’s the deal…you send me, Venus, a story to my email box:

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And in the subject line you put: “Include Me In Your Dreams”

Then you need to provide me with a bedtime story of your own for me. It can be something that really happened to you, or something that you want happening to you, or even something completely made up as a fantasy you know could never happen to you. That is it!

Understand that your story may be included in full, partial, or even re-written with a little Venus on it. That by submitting to me your story you give me full permission to do to it as I will.

Then, when the book is finished, you will get a free copy of the book through your email that you submitted your story to me in.

I promise that the finished book will be worth reading!

Oh yeah, by submitting the email, you are legally agreeing that you are 18 and older too! (Gots to protect myself from angry mothers ya know!).

Won’t you please send me your story???

~ Venus

I have had a few questions hit my email box lately that had to do with pleasing women in bed.

At first glance I always thought that these were “attempts” of some of my readers to try and get a sexual hook up with me. Turns out they were all similar situations where they did hook up with women and even had sex! So, my ego was bruised (not really) to find out that these were legitimate questions.

The (men in question) sexual “performance” was being rated. And it was less than stellar…in fact it lead to not getting a second hook up with women. Yes, it is true, unlike men, who will try hittin’ her again because she is freakin’ hot, women will walk away regardless if he looks like a model, if they aren’t gettin’ pleased!

Okay, it happens. Unfortunately it is true you are not going to get a second chance to redeem yourself. We are just that way. But there is some good news.

When the girls get together and have conversations about sex (yes, we talk about it too), there seems to be 3 positions that are agreed as the best positions for women to be pleased with.

Why would I let you in to the secret? For one, I want to share with you the positions that you can do next time to at least help your case for a future meeting. But also, I know these positions please women, okay, yes from experience too, but that is not my point here…focus!

I am going to spill them to you right now. I really do not know the technical names for these positions, so just work with me…

“The Mechanical Bull”

Okay, you lay on your back, have your partner straddle you on top, but have her face your feet. Let her start the rhythm and stroke. She probably will start slow and use long strokes to work herself up into a frenzy. For now you just kick back and enjoy the view.

You will know when she has worked herself up. It will either be fast and shallow, or slow and deep. Either way grab her by her upper legs/hips and help her as well as start pumping (matching the speed) against her rhythm penetrating her deeper.

Ride ‘em cowgirl! If you are real good, she will literally “fall off” the bull and just lay there.

“Get A Leg Up” or even two!

This is a twist on the typical man on top missionary position. The thing is to raise her legs up into the air and go deep. I will warn you though, not every woman is a freakin’ gymnast so don’t try to make her feet touch her ears!

Just before the grand finally, bend her legs at the knees and use them as support to drive your point home…so to speak.

And Finally, “Bend Her Over, Rover!”

Ah, the beauty of doggie style. So many things can be done from this starting position. But the ultimate for her is to “bite a pillow”. I mean, head low, butt high. Not the hands and knees position.

Now here is the secret to orgasmic mind-blowing doggie style. Every man seems to have a tendency to want to “jack hammer” straight on through the night. I am here to tell you that is not it. Long, slower, and deep penetration is the key. But not straight forward. Actually, it is down. Point yourself as down towards the ground as you can.

You might even have to position yourself a little above the situation and even though the natural feel is to go horizontal, vertical is the secret to make us all scream. Let’s just say it itches an area rarely scratched and finishes each stroke up with a “that’s the G-spot baby” ending.

I mean how long can any woman last with that repeated knocking on her back door? Eventually, we all answer the “door”.

So there they are. The three most talked about sexual positions I have ever heard when we girls discuss sex and positions. You are now armed with a weapon few know. Use it wisely. To be sure you will get better and better with more practice.

So now go on and hook up with women and test my positions out!

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It’s another Saturday night. You and your buds are “on the Hunt” at your favorite watering hole, “Club Get Some” (or some other club name). The music is loud and pumping. The floor is full of hot women that so far you and your friends have just watched from your table, imagining in your minds different scenarios with each of the women you see.

Sounding about right so far? I won’t bother with the drink in your hand because it is either a beer or a shot. You scan the dance floor and then the tables throughout the club trying to pick up some signal some hottie is interested in you.

Can I let you in on a secret? Men suck at picking up signals. In fact, I am sure some of you would not pick up the signal even if us women had a neon sign across our bodies saying, “HEY (insert your name here)! You could be with me tonight if you just walk up to talk to me”!

Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of women that just don’t get the signals you are putting out either. But, in genral, you men are far worse!

So let your wing (wo)man, Venus, help you out with the most common signals from women that we are picking up what you are putting down…err, we are interested in taking it to the next step with you.

The first and most important sign has always come from the eyes. Or more specifically, eye contact.

Just yesterday I had the TV on in the background for noise and an episode of “Two and a Half Men” was playing (there is a point to this really). So one brother (Charlie Sheen) is teaching the other (who cares) how to pick up women at a bar (turned out his secret was to drink to the point of not caring, but I digress).

There was a scene where the teaching brother tells the other one to scan the bar and figure out what girl he absolutely wanted. Well, he makes eye contact with several women, but two were of note. One, who after eye contact, clicked her tongue and rolled her eyes. Another, met his eyes and then smiled and looked down.

Of course, because this is a situation comedy, he desires the one who clicked her tongue and rolled her eyes. If you are not getting the irony here, that is the only woman in the bar that he absolutely has no chance with. And he completely ignores the woman who has given him the sign that she is interested in him. That’s right, the one who purposely made eye contact, smiled, and looked down.

The most important item you should have taken out of that long drive to make a single point was, any woman who makes eye contact with you directly, then smiles and looks down is good to go. That is your flag man waving you in for a landing, top gun.

Especially if she initiates the eye contact, that is she is already staring at you when you happen to catch her looking. And the whole smile and look down thing is a subconscious act by her showing a sort submission to you. Don’t go crazy yet, we do this all the time, we can’t help it. It is just an invitation, not a sure thing!

In fact, there are several more subconsciously submissive things women do when we are interested in somebody, so read on and learn our secret body language!

Staying with the whole “down” movement above, the head will give you signal information as well. Like the eyes looking down, a head movement downward with the look is a good sign. We tend to bow our heads when we are interested, think of any Geisha you have ever seen. She immediately looks down like she was ashamed she was caught looking at you. We can’t help it, it just happens.

On the other hand, if our head stays up and it, as well as our eyes, roll up into our head or go to one side or the other, you’re bumming. When we aren’t interested, we purposely and consciously look away with our heads completely level or even high. It is sort of a signal saying, “I have checked you out, and have decided that you are not worthy of my time and affection”.

Other “it’s a go!” signs can be seen by observing a woman’s whole body. I mean, you are going to look at it anyways, so you might as well see if there is a signal there or not, right?

If a woman thinks she is interested in you, her whole body will tell you in one of two different ways. She will face her entire body towards you, but keep her head pointing in the direction of other attentions, like her drink, her friend, or even another guy. Or you will notice that her body is doing whatever your body is doing. This is not subtle, so don’t think, “Hey, I’m sitting, she’s sitting, oh yeah it’s on!”. You will see that it is very exacting. You hold your arms a certain way, she does the same thing. You put your torso in a different direction than your waist, she will follow suit.

If you find that whatever your body movements are, she is responding in kind, than that is indeed the signal. Or again, if she just puts her whole front towards you but cocks her head to the side to talk to somebody, that is the other one. Especially if you notice that she is copying you and not the person she is with.

Okay, one final signal coming from the body! Watch her mouth, specifically her lips. When a woman finds a potential that she is interested in, she starts fidgeting with her lips in some way. Like, she keeps licking them while she talks, she keeps playing with the straw in her drink, she rubs her fingers on them or near them unconsciously quite a bit, she chews on a nail, and finally, she may suck in her lower lip and sort of bite down on it with her top teeth. These are all very subtle, but the expert observer will notice it.

Those are the signals. Now that you are aware of them, use them to your advantage. If you pay attention properly, you will be able to realize which girls in the club are approachable and already accepting you. It makes for a much easier hunt, and gets you to the point of the hookup versus walking around getting rejection. Or worse yet, just sitting there with your buddies and doing nothing.

Seriously, do not think we women do not know what you are there for. And if you are sitting all night with your buddies, then it is obvious to us you have nothing to offer. Why? Because we know in reality if you were not on the hunt, you and your buddies would be in some sports bar playing pool, not in a dance club pretending you are into the music.

Good luck on the hunt!

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Okay, so I was out at this club down river last weekend, when this guy mustered his nerve and walked up to talk to me. He seemed genuine, kind, and pretty well clean. When I closed my eyes his voice was nice, and his eyes were deep crystal blue. He would have definitely at least got a dance out of me, maybe even more conversation then who know where from there.

But, he got. . . nothing! Well, I was kind in my denial, I know how fragile you guys can be.

I just could not get past his eighties influenced, “flock of seagulls” styled, weird side length emo type hair cut he had!

And you can argue all day that I am flawed, that I can’t judge a book by its cover, and I did not take the time to learn about the real man beneath. But you know what? You are right! I am not Avril Lavigne, and we are not living in the world of the “Sk8ter Boi” (skater boy).

Want to know something else? About 90% of the women out there will absolutely agree with me! Skater boy is correct, because unfortunately, we as women only see two types of guys out there in the world, little un-confident boys and confident grown men.

That particular style screamed out to me, “I am a little un-confident boy who doesn’t think much of himself so I am trying to hide behind the persona of what I thought was a cool hair cut”. And thus, I had to let the little boy go ahead on his search for a little girl, because I am all woman, and a little boy can not handle me properly.

You are probably thinking two things right about now. You are probably thinking, “what a selfish chick with an attitude”. And you are probably thinking, “is a certain hair style really a deal breaker?”. To which I answer, no I am not, I just know what I want, and a little boy is not one of them. And absolutely, a hair style can make or break you.

His particular cut would have worked, if he was in a punk rock bar or perhaps a Goth bar or even an EMO bar. The problem is he wasn’t. And the girls (no miss-spelling there) in those three styles of bars are probably not what you are looking for, unless you want an anarchist, a dark girl more into a fictional character that drinks blood than she is you, or a way-too-emotional girl who is going to talk to you all night long about how she in not understood by anybody.

Of course, I am assuming here that as men, you want women, not little girls, too. I mean, don’t get me wrong, little girls and boys have their times (by the way, by little I mean personality, not age!).

Back to the issue at hand, hair. Let’s talk about some pet peaves women, in general, have with hair.

Maybe it is stress, maybe the times we live in, or maybe it is in the water. Whatever it is, there seems to be a lot of guys in their twenties and older losing their hair. It appears men are losing it much earlier in ages now. If not balding, definitely in thinning.

The worst possible thing you could do about it is try to grow some long hair to “comb over” to hide it. Really, I mean that with all the sincerity I can muster in text! Stop it! You remind us of some older creepy uncle when you do that!

Much better to just cut it short and act like you don’t care, showing confidence about it then the comb over. In fact, if it is that much of an issue to you, maybe you should even try the other extreme and shave it bald completely.

Here is a secret, shhhh, don’t tell everybody! We find men who shave their heads clean when they don’t seem the age to have to s-e-x-y! Why? Because it states to us that you are completely comfortable and confident with yourself and you don’t care what others think!

That makes you sexy! MMMmmmm. Of course you can blow it if you shave everything off and then still come across as self conscious about it, that is so NOT sexy!

Watch the boys of summer. Or even the actors of Hollywood. They are always on the cutting edge of hair styles. Most of the time, though, a clean cut boy projects an aire of confidence and suave sophistication.

Speaking of clean cut, what is up with all the goatees? Is there a bunch of sports figures out there that you guys are following or what? The goatees, along with the mullets, have to go! Maybe if you knew how to use a soul patch, great, but most of you don’t! So shave the stuff off, please!

Okay, there you go. The truth about how most of us women feel about your hair. Unless you are trying to show how you are so unique as a tortured artist or musician (and most of you who read me know my puzzlement to the “the band” attraction), you need to be clean cut, shaved, and have the “James Bond” confidence about you.

What about moustaches? You are not going to believe what we think about them! Check out http://gotvenus.com, and you will eventually read what both myself and Tiffany thinks (as well as most other women) about moustaches.