Fear of dating and love

Believe it or not, many people have a fear of dating and love. Sometimes, they are not even consciously aware of it. There are usually 4 types of fear associated with dating and love.

The most common type of fear of dating and love is simply embarrassment. The fear that making contact or striking a conversation with somebody will end up with saying something or doing something that will end in embarrassment. And anybody who has put themselves in this position already knows once you are embarrassed, your game is over and so are any chances of trying to recover from it. That experience, if happened only once, will strike fear in most people from that point on.

Similar to embarrassment, is the fear of making mistakes. It is different from embarrassment, though. This fear is more based on you are going to say the wrong things, things that won’t make you embarrassed, but something like, the person likes the color red and you go on and on about the color blue. Or you think you have a good conversation going and you switch gears to another subject, which just happens to be a sore subject with the person you are conversing with, deleting all the ground you previously made.

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Confidence in yourself is the number one weapon in dating. If you have no confidence in yourself, it will definitely show through.

Every time you interact with another, lack of confidence shows through and your chances decrease tremendously before you even utter a word.

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Both fear of embarrassment and fear of making mistakes leads up to the ultimate fear, the fear of failure. The sad thing about the fear of failure is that usually, not always, but most times, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. That is to say that you are so concentrated on making the mistakes and becoming embarrassed, that you ultimately accept the fact that you are going to fail before you even begin. Having that pre-conceived mind set before going in usually ends of making the fear a reality, and you fail, making it a self-fulfilling prophecy. Understand?

You need to get a handle on these fears, which ultimately combine to create an overall fear of dating or fear of love. The best thing you can do is recognize that they exist. Then accept that you have them so that you can overcome them. Now that you know you have them and accept them, working on them will make it easier to either combat them or change your strategy based on the fact that you know that they are there.

One final fear that actually exist more in men than women, is the fear of dating and love will end in financial loss. No, I am not joking here. There are a lot men out there that mentally block themselves from dating and love because they think it will cost too much. Or worst yet, they spend way more than they should to try to impress somebody or make it appear that they are financially more solid than they really are. After all, there is a social acceptance that any man with money can get a woman regardless of looks or personality. Honestly, unless the woman is a true gold digger, money is not really an issue. If it were, then there would be a LOT of lonely broke men, and if you look around, you will see that it is just not so.

Okay, so now you know the types of fears you are up against. Enjoy the hunt and work it out. You can use this new knowledge to begin to conquer the fear of dating and love.

As a man, you are constantly looking at a woman’s body, right? So make it work for you by reading her body language to find out if she is interested to you. Observation is how to hook up with women by reading signs.

Want to know what to look for? Of course you do or you wouldn’t be here…

A woman tends to speak with her body more quickly and usually more often before she actually speaks her mind. To figure out if she is interested in you, there are few almost sure signs that she is feeling you.

The first thing to try and notice is eye contact. When you speak or she speaks (most likely if she is into you, she is just going to let you speak) she will look you directly in the eyes. In fact, she can’t seem to take her eyes off of your eyes. This is one of the biggest signs.

Another sign is her constantly fidgiting with her hair. She is twirlling in around her fingers, or she is constantly flipping it back as she talks with you. The bonus sign, she does all this while never breaking eye contact with you.

Non communication is not a bad sign. In fact, it probably is a good sign. If you find that she is not really saying much, but she is constantly smiling and laughing while looking you in the eyes, then that is the sign. A lot of times we will not speak, because we can not think of anything witty to say and we do not want to come across as a dork to you.

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Not always accurate as a sign, but if you find you keep crossing paths in a public place, this could be a sign that she is purposely putting herself in your path.

Also not always a good indicator, is touching you while she speaks. Others claim that this is a classic sign that a woman wants you, but in reality, some women have done that so much during learning their communication skills as a young girl that now it is nothing more than just a habit. Not anymore a sign than your local waitress asking you, “what’ll you have darling?”.

So, observation is the key. I will admit that us women have a tendency to speak with the body before our verbal skills. A keen man can pick up on these subtile messages and be a step ahead on how to hook up with women by reading signs.

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“So I took what I could get, mhmm, she said, You Ain’t Seen Nothing Yet!”

Every woman is different. I say this because in the past when I give a list of things like this, there is always somebody that wants to argue it. I am speaking in general terms here, guys. Of course there are always going to be exceptions here and there. But what women want a man to be can be common.

I know even stating that above, someone is going to email me saying that his top 5 things is better than my top 5 and I am not correct. Okay, but here is my question to you honey, ready? How’s that list of 5 working out for you? You getting all the play you want with that top 5 list are you? Girls beating down your door and you have so many you have to turn them away?

My point is that you may have found a list that works for a certain woman. That is great if you are looking for a long lasting, marriage potential relationship. For the rest of us, let us talk about the top 5 things that generally makes a man sexy to women (notice the plural, more than one reference here?).

The subject is hard enough as it is. Sexy is subjective, period. What may turn me on might not do anything for one of my girlfriends. However, there are some commonalities that most women would agree with. The following below are as agreeable as a collective set of women can get.

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1. The fine art of being manly.

No, not being a hairy macho caveman. I equate this more as a presence than a physical attribute. Of course eye candy will catch any eye, but for women, that is not the thing that keeps her attention. It really is about the masculinity that you seem to exude. It is instinctual. The female lions do not need a male lion if you think about it. She hunts, fights, and does everything else on her own. But the lion who exudes the most natural masculinity is the lion who has a pride of females following him.

It is the way he carries himself. It is the mannerism of his body during movement. There is a certain confidence about him that no woman can ignore. There is a confidence in his speech and what he says. There is a way about his eyes when he talks that dares you to look away while he is talking, but he somehow knows that you can not. This is the effect of the masculine natural instinct that women can not help but be attracted to regardless of outside appearance. That leads into our next spot…

2. Confidence

There is no other way around it, confidence makes a man, period. You can have a room of 10 guys, 9 of them models, and 1 ordinary Joe. If the 9 models are all wimpy and are too concerned about how they look or if they can go talk to a girl, but Joe has the attitude he is not in competition and walks up and starts taking the initiative on the woman, I can guarantee you 9 guys will have dates with a mirror while Joe is walking out with the woman. Confidence is definitely what women want a man to be.

It seems to come natural by men who have wealth and power. However, you can be a broke guy with a car wash job, if you can pull off that confidence, you are going to get phone numbers. It is as simple as that. Even if you only emulate the confidence convincingly, even if you really are not, you are still going to be that much further ahead than most men. Believe me when I tell you this. Pretend you are James Bond if you have to.

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3. Flash that smile

It sort of goes with the confidence, but a man who is confident enough to smile a lot can really get attention. In fact, a boyish smile can be a great weapon against women. It says to us that you are confident, friendly, and genuine. It does all of this without you even saying a word. Find a way to be happy and smile a lot and you will notice more and more women wanting to hang out around you. It is like you are the life of the party while the other men are just looking with blank stares and drinking.

4. The eyes have it

Your eyes and what you do with them can be the ultimate secret weapon in your arsenal. Here is why, we are attention whores. Any woman that tells you different is lying. We absolutely seek attention. And lucky for you, it takes something as simple as eye contact. Do this especially if we are speaking to you.

Keeping eye contact with us while we speak makes us feel that you are actually listening and want to hear what we have to say. It may be complete bullshit, but we do not know the difference. The eye contact makes us believe you are and that feeds our attention seeking needs. In fact, if you can keep from bouncing your eyes from our breasts to our eyes, you can use eye contact to make us feel so special that we will pretty much let you take what you want.

5. Aromatherapy

A little bit of man smell can be masculine and attractive. But if you are smelling like you have been on the couch for days playing video games, in other words, like Fritos and sweaty butt crack, you could be a greek god and you are not getting anywhere.

We associate in our minds the smells of tobacco, woods, spices, and moss to masculinity. We can not help it, it turns you into a strong lumberjack in our minds regardless of body type. Stay away from the scents that are made to be worn by both men and women. These are considered androgynous, not manly.

There you have it. Pretend if you have to. But exude confidence and carry yourself as masculine, smiling at your target and look into her eyes like they are the only thing in the universe. Dab a little bit of cologne (dot on the neck behind and below ears and dot on wrists, do not bathe in it). Do these 5 things and you are going to be the guy women are gathering around, what women want a man to be.