Gender Psychology And Hooking Up With Women

Do you know enough about gender psychology and how it affects you? What exactly is sexual impulse and why does it create desire? What two phases of these impulses exists in gender psychology and how to use this information? And the psychological affects of the sexual impulse on the woman? These are the questions that are about to be answered in the following article.

Sexual impulse is really a combination of physiological and psychological triggers working in complete harmony with the person experiencing it, and indirectly by sending signals to the nervous system. Such factors of influence include, but are not limited to the five senses. However gender psychology plays a large role as well.

For example, like a moth, scent is used in the form of pheromones that connect the scent to sexual excitation. This sexual excitation, turned into a sexual impulse, is what leads the male to seek the female with the chemical releasing of these pheromones. That is why the scent of a woman can drive a man crazy, overriding logical reaction to sexual impulse.

Regardless of being male or female, you have made a neurological association of pleasure attached directly to physical touch, and ultimately sex. This is what turns the physiological reaction of sexual excitation into the sexual impulse, influenced by the gender psychology.

Sexual impulse leading into desire really is nothing more than an extension of the childhood neurological association of pleasure, even the emotional connection of a loving feeling, to the physical touch. This started from the warmth and protection of your mother’s womb, to the loving arms of parental hugs, holding hands with your first loving attraction, and so forth. Due to gender psychology, men bond physically to this, women bond emotions to the physical action.

There are two phases in a sexual impulse; but, instead of being unrelated, or only distantly related, we see that they are really so intimately connected as to form two distinct stages in or of the same process.

The first stage is usually under the parallel influence of internal and external stimuli such as images, desires, and ideals formulated within the mind. These can be conscious or unconscious. Then the person generally is charged with energy and the person’s sexual organ congests with blood, a normal physiological reaction.

The second stage involves the sexual organ then discharging amid profound sexual excitement, complimented by intense physical stimuli, then followed by deep organic relief. Otherwise known as an orgasm.

It is of course by the first process that produces the tension in which the second process relieves. The first, taking on usually a more active form in the male, has the double affect of bringing the male himself into the condition in which discharge becomes imperative.

At the same time arousing in the female a similar ardent state of emotional excitement and sexual stimuli by the engorging of the her sexual organ. The second process has the task, directly, of discharging the tension thus produced and, indirectly, of effecting the act by which the race is propagated. In other word, that means that the orgasm is physiologically meant to release that sexual tension, while the process also has the side effect of creating life.

Mother nature is kind of tricky, huh! Knowing that the need to release sexual tension by performing the act of sex will also ensure the propagation of the human race, unless manually prohibited, by pill, condom, etc.

What does it all mean? How does it help you hook up with women?

My attempt, although perhaps too clinical, is to have you understand the underlying states that produce the sexual impulse for the purpose of you understanding that it is not just a physical draw, but a psychological connection made from a neurological connection, as well as emotional association.

For men, it simply implies that the reason for The Hunt is not only to gain pleasurable experience through sex, but it is the means necessary to relieve the physiological desire to release the pent up tension that is an automatic response created automatically by the object of his desire. You can’t help yourselves for wanting sex, more so the release of that created tension.

But for women, The Hunt is no only for the above experience as for men, but also an emotional need due to gender psychology. The issue here then becomes, that in order to be successful, you have to get through the woman’s gate keeper. Get through her emotional guard.

Knowing that women are emotionally blocking your efforts, you only need to find the keys to unlock that gate to get to the physiological animal she hides inside! Catching on?

This is the hardest part for you men. No doubt about it. Because here is the final secret to your success: you have to present yourself as the strong and virile man that will fulfill her first emotional blockage of finding a protector and provider (whether that is your intention or not) and then break her other emotional gates down by loving physical contact and connecting conversation.

Contact such as touching her shoulder, touching the back of her hand or better yet holding her hand, and the ultimate, if you can get away with it, to fit some hugs in there too. This enforces the protector, but more than that, re-constitutes her neurological association of love through physical contact.

Get past her emotional gate guardians, and it is all too easy to produce the sexual impulse within her. And this is just the physical side of the communication! Further, it has only scratched the surface!

In order to really get this to work, you need to utilize almost hypnotic verbal communication. Which means you really need to understand gender psychology.

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As a man, you are constantly looking at a woman’s body, right? So make it work for you by reading her body language to find out if she is interested to you. Observation is how to hook up with women by reading signs.

Want to know what to look for? Of course you do or you wouldn’t be here…

A woman tends to speak with her body more quickly and usually more often before she actually speaks her mind. To figure out if she is interested in you, there are few almost sure signs that she is feeling you.

The first thing to try and notice is eye contact. When you speak or she speaks (most likely if she is into you, she is just going to let you speak) she will look you directly in the eyes. In fact, she can’t seem to take her eyes off of your eyes. This is one of the biggest signs.

Another sign is her constantly fidgiting with her hair. She is twirlling in around her fingers, or she is constantly flipping it back as she talks with you. The bonus sign, she does all this while never breaking eye contact with you.

Non communication is not a bad sign. In fact, it probably is a good sign. If you find that she is not really saying much, but she is constantly smiling and laughing while looking you in the eyes, then that is the sign. A lot of times we will not speak, because we can not think of anything witty to say and we do not want to come across as a dork to you.

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Not always accurate as a sign, but if you find you keep crossing paths in a public place, this could be a sign that she is purposely putting herself in your path.

Also not always a good indicator, is touching you while she speaks. Others claim that this is a classic sign that a woman wants you, but in reality, some women have done that so much during learning their communication skills as a young girl that now it is nothing more than just a habit. Not anymore a sign than your local waitress asking you, “what’ll you have darling?”.

So, observation is the key. I will admit that us women have a tendency to speak with the body before our verbal skills. A keen man can pick up on these subtile messages and be a step ahead on how to hook up with women by reading signs.

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It’s another Saturday night. You and your buds are “on the Hunt” at your favorite watering hole, “Club Get Some” (or some other club name). The music is loud and pumping. The floor is full of hot women that so far you and your friends have just watched from your table, imagining in your minds different scenarios with each of the women you see.

Sounding about right so far? I won’t bother with the drink in your hand because it is either a beer or a shot. You scan the dance floor and then the tables throughout the club trying to pick up some signal some hottie is interested in you.

Can I let you in on a secret? Men suck at picking up signals. In fact, I am sure some of you would not pick up the signal even if us women had a neon sign across our bodies saying, “HEY (insert your name here)! You could be with me tonight if you just walk up to talk to me”!

Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of women that just don’t get the signals you are putting out either. But, in genral, you men are far worse!

So let your wing (wo)man, Venus, help you out with the most common signals from women that we are picking up what you are putting down…err, we are interested in taking it to the next step with you.

The first and most important sign has always come from the eyes. Or more specifically, eye contact.

Just yesterday I had the TV on in the background for noise and an episode of “Two and a Half Men” was playing (there is a point to this really). So one brother (Charlie Sheen) is teaching the other (who cares) how to pick up women at a bar (turned out his secret was to drink to the point of not caring, but I digress).

There was a scene where the teaching brother tells the other one to scan the bar and figure out what girl he absolutely wanted. Well, he makes eye contact with several women, but two were of note. One, who after eye contact, clicked her tongue and rolled her eyes. Another, met his eyes and then smiled and looked down.

Of course, because this is a situation comedy, he desires the one who clicked her tongue and rolled her eyes. If you are not getting the irony here, that is the only woman in the bar that he absolutely has no chance with. And he completely ignores the woman who has given him the sign that she is interested in him. That’s right, the one who purposely made eye contact, smiled, and looked down.

The most important item you should have taken out of that long drive to make a single point was, any woman who makes eye contact with you directly, then smiles and looks down is good to go. That is your flag man waving you in for a landing, top gun.

Especially if she initiates the eye contact, that is she is already staring at you when you happen to catch her looking. And the whole smile and look down thing is a subconscious act by her showing a sort submission to you. Don’t go crazy yet, we do this all the time, we can’t help it. It is just an invitation, not a sure thing!

In fact, there are several more subconsciously submissive things women do when we are interested in somebody, so read on and learn our secret body language!

Staying with the whole “down” movement above, the head will give you signal information as well. Like the eyes looking down, a head movement downward with the look is a good sign. We tend to bow our heads when we are interested, think of any Geisha you have ever seen. She immediately looks down like she was ashamed she was caught looking at you. We can’t help it, it just happens.

On the other hand, if our head stays up and it, as well as our eyes, roll up into our head or go to one side or the other, you’re bumming. When we aren’t interested, we purposely and consciously look away with our heads completely level or even high. It is sort of a signal saying, “I have checked you out, and have decided that you are not worthy of my time and affection”.

Other “it’s a go!” signs can be seen by observing a woman’s whole body. I mean, you are going to look at it anyways, so you might as well see if there is a signal there or not, right?

If a woman thinks she is interested in you, her whole body will tell you in one of two different ways. She will face her entire body towards you, but keep her head pointing in the direction of other attentions, like her drink, her friend, or even another guy. Or you will notice that her body is doing whatever your body is doing. This is not subtle, so don’t think, “Hey, I’m sitting, she’s sitting, oh yeah it’s on!”. You will see that it is very exacting. You hold your arms a certain way, she does the same thing. You put your torso in a different direction than your waist, she will follow suit.

If you find that whatever your body movements are, she is responding in kind, than that is indeed the signal. Or again, if she just puts her whole front towards you but cocks her head to the side to talk to somebody, that is the other one. Especially if you notice that she is copying you and not the person she is with.

Okay, one final signal coming from the body! Watch her mouth, specifically her lips. When a woman finds a potential that she is interested in, she starts fidgeting with her lips in some way. Like, she keeps licking them while she talks, she keeps playing with the straw in her drink, she rubs her fingers on them or near them unconsciously quite a bit, she chews on a nail, and finally, she may suck in her lower lip and sort of bite down on it with her top teeth. These are all very subtle, but the expert observer will notice it.

Those are the signals. Now that you are aware of them, use them to your advantage. If you pay attention properly, you will be able to realize which girls in the club are approachable and already accepting you. It makes for a much easier hunt, and gets you to the point of the hookup versus walking around getting rejection. Or worse yet, just sitting there with your buddies and doing nothing.

Seriously, do not think we women do not know what you are there for. And if you are sitting all night with your buddies, then it is obvious to us you have nothing to offer. Why? Because we know in reality if you were not on the hunt, you and your buddies would be in some sports bar playing pool, not in a dance club pretending you are into the music.

Good luck on the hunt!

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