It’s another Saturday night. You and your buds are “on the Hunt” at your favorite watering hole, “Club Get Some” (or some other club name). The music is loud and pumping. The floor is full of hot women that so far you and your friends have just watched from your table, imagining in your minds different scenarios with each of the women you see.

Sounding about right so far? I won’t bother with the drink in your hand because it is either a beer or a shot. You scan the dance floor and then the tables throughout the club trying to pick up some signal some hottie is interested in you.

Can I let you in on a secret? Men suck at picking up signals. In fact, I am sure some of you would not pick up the signal even if us women had a neon sign across our bodies saying, “HEY (insert your name here)! You could be with me tonight if you just walk up to talk to me”!

Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of women that just don’t get the signals you are putting out either. But, in genral, you men are far worse!

So let your wing (wo)man, Venus, help you out with the most common signals from women that we are picking up what you are putting down…err, we are interested in taking it to the next step with you.

The first and most important sign has always come from the eyes. Or more specifically, eye contact.

Just yesterday I had the TV on in the background for noise and an episode of “Two and a Half Men” was playing (there is a point to this really). So one brother (Charlie Sheen) is teaching the other (who cares) how to pick up women at a bar (turned out his secret was to drink to the point of not caring, but I digress).

There was a scene where the teaching brother tells the other one to scan the bar and figure out what girl he absolutely wanted. Well, he makes eye contact with several women, but two were of note. One, who after eye contact, clicked her tongue and rolled her eyes. Another, met his eyes and then smiled and looked down.

Of course, because this is a situation comedy, he desires the one who clicked her tongue and rolled her eyes. If you are not getting the irony here, that is the only woman in the bar that he absolutely has no chance with. And he completely ignores the woman who has given him the sign that she is interested in him. That’s right, the one who purposely made eye contact, smiled, and looked down.

The most important item you should have taken out of that long drive to make a single point was, any woman who makes eye contact with you directly, then smiles and looks down is good to go. That is your flag man waving you in for a landing, top gun.

Especially if she initiates the eye contact, that is she is already staring at you when you happen to catch her looking. And the whole smile and look down thing is a subconscious act by her showing a sort submission to you. Don’t go crazy yet, we do this all the time, we can’t help it. It is just an invitation, not a sure thing!

In fact, there are several more subconsciously submissive things women do when we are interested in somebody, so read on and learn our secret body language!

Staying with the whole “down” movement above, the head will give you signal information as well. Like the eyes looking down, a head movement downward with the look is a good sign. We tend to bow our heads when we are interested, think of any Geisha you have ever seen. She immediately looks down like she was ashamed she was caught looking at you. We can’t help it, it just happens.

On the other hand, if our head stays up and it, as well as our eyes, roll up into our head or go to one side or the other, you’re bumming. When we aren’t interested, we purposely and consciously look away with our heads completely level or even high. It is sort of a signal saying, “I have checked you out, and have decided that you are not worthy of my time and affection”.

Other “it’s a go!” signs can be seen by observing a woman’s whole body. I mean, you are going to look at it anyways, so you might as well see if there is a signal there or not, right?

If a woman thinks she is interested in you, her whole body will tell you in one of two different ways. She will face her entire body towards you, but keep her head pointing in the direction of other attentions, like her drink, her friend, or even another guy. Or you will notice that her body is doing whatever your body is doing. This is not subtle, so don’t think, “Hey, I’m sitting, she’s sitting, oh yeah it’s on!”. You will see that it is very exacting. You hold your arms a certain way, she does the same thing. You put your torso in a different direction than your waist, she will follow suit.

If you find that whatever your body movements are, she is responding in kind, than that is indeed the signal. Or again, if she just puts her whole front towards you but cocks her head to the side to talk to somebody, that is the other one. Especially if you notice that she is copying you and not the person she is with.

Okay, one final signal coming from the body! Watch her mouth, specifically her lips. When a woman finds a potential that she is interested in, she starts fidgeting with her lips in some way. Like, she keeps licking them while she talks, she keeps playing with the straw in her drink, she rubs her fingers on them or near them unconsciously quite a bit, she chews on a nail, and finally, she may suck in her lower lip and sort of bite down on it with her top teeth. These are all very subtle, but the expert observer will notice it.

Those are the signals. Now that you are aware of them, use them to your advantage. If you pay attention properly, you will be able to realize which girls in the club are approachable and already accepting you. It makes for a much easier hunt, and gets you to the point of the hookup versus walking around getting rejection. Or worse yet, just sitting there with your buddies and doing nothing.

Seriously, do not think we women do not know what you are there for. And if you are sitting all night with your buddies, then it is obvious to us you have nothing to offer. Why? Because we know in reality if you were not on the hunt, you and your buddies would be in some sports bar playing pool, not in a dance club pretending you are into the music.

Good luck on the hunt!

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There was a time (so I am told) that the one night stand was primarily the man’s territory only. I suppose it could be during the past sexual repressive years.

It was suppose to go down something like this. The man quickly convinces the woman that he has feelings for her and then based on that, gets her into bed. Then in the morning he is gone or leaves. When the woman questions his feelings, he explains that they have changed, or admits that it was a flat out lie to get her into bed. He shuts the door, she collapses on the bed/floor/whatever and immediately cries as she realizes she has been used.

The repressive years are the ones that mom and dad were a happy couple, there were no extra-marital affairs. Courting was the dating theme (that’s where you date with the intention to eventually marry). And the only time sex was had outside of marriage was whores, sluts, and rapes.

The thing is, men were still finding ways to hook up with women during those time too, it just was not talked about. It was repressed, kept in the dark. I mean, how would it look if Ward told June (Leave it to Beaver, a black and white sitcom of the late 50s) he was having sex with the babysitter on the way home? Not even!

That reminds me of an old joke, “When was the first time sex was spoke of on regular tv programming?…It was on the same show, when June said to Ward at the breakfast table, Ward, I think you were a little hard on the Beaver last night, don’t you?”

Those days are gone I believe. I know that the 50s image of a nuclear family and the role of a housewife are gone. But I say this, not because I’m a slut, and not because other women I know that occasionally do this are sluts either, but today, women often look to hook up for a one night stand, probably just as much as men do today.

If you are a man reading this, I actually heard in your mind say, “no shit…”. But it is true. In fact, in a previous post, “In The Game, Hunting On The Best Day Is How To Hook Up With Women” I allude to it by stating that the best day to be on the hunt is Friday, when women are likely to look for a one night stand. Okay, I did not say that exactly, but I did say Friday is the night they are most likely to release stress, and sex was a great way for us to do it.

Now you can quit fantasizing about a one night stand, and you can actually go make it happen. What? Didn’t the fact that us women look for it too boost your confidence? If you said no to that last question, you are doomed until you build that confidence up! We look for one night stands too, but we are not going to drag your shy ass from a corner and take you by the hand to do it! There is still a game afoot! And you still have to make it happen! Just now you know that some of us are going to make it easier on you.

What do you look for? Well, that one is a little more difficult. I have read other authors who suggest because a girl wears revealing clothes, that she is comfortable with her body and is looking for sex. I would not count on that.

We get dressed up and try to look as hot as we can regardless. The fact that we are going out is going to make us wear the sluttiest clothes we think we can get away with, that does not mean we want sex because of it. Do you as a man get dressed up and expect to have…uh, well, never mind, of course you do.

I think one of the biggest clues that a girl is a “cougar” (a nickname for a girl on the hunt), is if she is in a busy bar/club/other public outlet by herself. To be honest, being a social animal, we normally either want to hang out with our girls or be with men on dates. Unless she is an ultra independent “I don’t need a man” kind of woman, if she is alone chances are she is on the hunt. You will know if she continues to make eye contact with you. Three times is the charm boys, go introduce yourself to her dumb ass! Again, she is not going to come to you and take you by the hand!

You have to talk to the girl whether she’s a cougar or not! If you keep going to these places and sit in corners trying to talk with your eyes or an occasional smile, it’s going to be you and your hand again tonight! You are going to have to get over talking if you are going to hook up with women, there is no other way around it.

I’ll leave you with this thought, half (that’s right half) of the models of the world are lonely, single, and begging for a man’s attention. Wanna know why? Because no men will approach them to even talk to them. Most men have a fear that they are too beautiful and would never have a chance to get a model girl like that.

And now you know the answer to, “Why are beautiful women usually attached to ugly or cruel assholes in a relationship?” It is simple, because the asshole had the guts to go talk to her. And chances are, her options were limited.

So go on! Go hook up with women and be okay with it if it is just a one night stand! We are!

Obviously, because most people work, the hunt is less likely to be successful during a week day. Monday through Thursday being the 4 “weak days” (yes the spelling is intentional). In learning how to hook up with women, it is best to start out where you are going to have the best success. Doesn’t that make sense?

Here’s the thing, when you are just starting out learning how to hook up with women, the last thing you need is continual rejection. So by observing the best day for the “Hunt”, you stand less a chance of the rejection, and more chance at success. The more successes you have, the better and faster your confidence builds, the more confidence you build the easier it is to hook up with the women. It all goes together, really, I would not try to set you up for failure, I could not have the reputation I have by doing so.

Monday through Thursday are days that are great to just go hang out casually, and spend some time, maybe a drink or two with some of your friends. The prey is pretty scarce, so knowing this from the beginning, you are not disappointed that you can not “hunt”. In the future, when you are ready, you can use these days as “set-up” days where you go have a casual coffee with a woman you are interested in, and if the vibe is right, then you set up an official weekend date, but more on that in the future. Small steps, honey, small steps.

Sunday is not a really good day either. For the most part, everybody is re-couping from their weekend frolic and folly. Besides, you can not have any good times knowing that Monday morning is just around the corner and coming up fast. Sunday is hanging out at your home in your comfy clothes, the chillaxin’ day.

Most believe that Saturday night is the night of the “Hunt”. There are some good hunting grounds to attend on Saturday, and definitely more prey at the watering hole than Sunday through Thursday. But, Saturday is really your 2nd choice, or maybe your backup plan. By Saturday most people have blown off some sort of steam or tension, and after sleeping overnight, may have come back to normal senses, subconsciously blocking the alcoholic inhibitions of the previous night. Wait, what? That is right, boys, Friday is your day!

Because Friday is the day to “Hunt” those women! We have had enough of work! Monday through Thursday probably was work related and sucked! We need to vent some pressures and some steam. We more than likely have called the pack to the watering holes before even leaving work. We are restless, we are starving for attention, and we want to have fun. Add alcohol to that already dangerous mix and our inhibitions be damned! There is no “secret” to “girls gone wild”. Just find some repressed women on Friday night and add alcohol.

And guess what? You boys can be considered part of our fun! It’s true! And how better to relieve stress and pressures of the work week than having some vigorous sex!

Take it from me, boys, Friday is THE night for the “Hunt”. There is no disputing it. And Saturday is a good secondary or back up plan. But keep in mind, if you did not get any response to your game on Friday, you will have the same or worse results any other day, including Saturday. Because I am telling you, if we are going to allow at all for any weak ass game, it is going to be on Friday night for all the reasons I have already stated above.

To the Hunt!
~Venus

If you want to hook up with women, you are going to have to talk to them. There is really no way of getting around it. Therefore, the first thing you need to conquer is your fear of talking to women. Going up to women you do not know and just starting a conversation can seem scary, but it is done everyday. And, I am going to let you in on a little secret of us women…ready? When you come up to us and talk to us, we are going to judge you (it’s an unfortunate fact) severely.

Judgment Day

What type of judgment am I talking about? You see, when you come up and meet and talk to us women the very first time, how you handle it is always going to be the first thing we connect to you. If you come up and you are all nervous, voice wavering, and you seem like you are struggling to get a simple “hello” out, then we are going to perceive you as a mousy little guy with nothing to offer. In our minds, we are already screaming, “NEXT!” while we try to figure out the best way to get rid of you politely. One the other hand, if you come up and you are confident and nice (yes, too confident equals asshole to us) then we are going to perceive you as a man that knows who he is, what he wants and how he is going to get it. That is sexy to us, and whether we want to admit it or not, you are already half way across the threshold of our mental blocking doorway, and we want to let you in.

Now before you get all upset and start complaining that it is not fair, let me explain something to you. We can not help but act this way. It is sort of genetically programmed into us. It has been since the dawn of male and female relationships. As women, we are genetically programmed to look for a mate that can provide protection, create a livable environment, and we breed strong, healthy offspring.

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I think it is part of our system as a result of human instinct and survival. Consider the caveman days. If you were not a strong male that had a protective cave, could hunt and kill to provide food for me, and breed strong children who could survive the harsh world we lived in, then you would not be able to help us perpetuate the human race. Therefore we instinctively moved on to the next male that did fulfill all of our categories. It was selective to continue our species. So don’t hate us for it. We are the whole reason you exists today!

Fortunately for you today, to hook up with women doesn’t require you have the ability to outrun beasts meaning to eat you and provide strong breeding material. But, it is still in the back of our minds. Now, though, we are not so worried about physical attributes or special hunting abilities. But you still have to be confident. No confidence, no game, nobody is going to “play” with you.

Emit Confidence Through Speaking

So the overall point here, is that if you want to hook up with women, you have to make them believe that you are confident. Since the first thing we get to know you by (after we check you out physically as you walk up to us…more about that latter) is your voice through conversation, you need to become comfortable enough to be able to talk to women you do not know with an air of confidence.

If you think you have that, great, you are all set. But before you leave this article, how many times have you started a conversation with a woman and got anywhere with it?

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Listen, don’t make this harder than it actually is. Like anything else, all you really need is practice. I can suggest some things to help you out. Let’s jump right in.

Got a mall in your neighborhood? If you do great, if not maybe a large grocery store? Go to a mall or a large grocery store and just start walking around and making contact with women. It does not matter if they are married or not (although I would not try with her man standing by, you’re trying to learn confidence, not get your ass kicked). The exercise here is to start getting comfortable with talking to strange women.

Depending on your confidence and your ability, you can start off where you feel comfortable. But, I am going to start from a beginning point. Just walk around the mall or the grocery store and make eye contact with every woman you can. If you can handle it, we’re taking baby steps here, add a smile with each eye contact. You will know when you have this mastered, each woman will reward you with a smile and a look usually away from you and down toward the ground. If you can get this response out of most (were are talking about 75%) of the women, you are ready to move on.

Now you are going to talk to each one. With the same eye contact and smile, now say “hello” or “hi” to each one of them. If you just can’t bring yourself to do it today, make it another day. Do not brush off the power of this exercise. It seems silly, but it is building that confidence that we are going to judge you on so harshly! When you get to the point you can look a woman in the eyes, smile, and say something beyond hello, with the intent of striking up a conversation, you are ready to start trying it out in the bars, clubs, or wherever you hang out to hook up with women.